via email:
"dear m.rose,
my best male friend and i have this obvious intense attraction to each other. i've expressed my feelings for him and he said that he didn't want to take a chance on ruining our friendship. later on in the saga of our relationship, we hit it and quit it. he apologized for not being honest with me about his feelings for me and promised that we would work things out. he then immediately jumped into a relationship with an unattractive girl [notice a pattern?] who he proposed to, only to have the relationship backfire. please tell me that it's not me, it's him.
love,
i snowboarded past your fraternity"
Welcome back, Banker Hater with yet another dilemma! Glad that you enjoyed my advice so much to submit again. I've already gone over the male/female friendship issue in a previous blog post, so I won't cover it again. But your email is a perfect example of why it's so hard for men and women to be friends! Somebody ends up with a crush and then gets crushed in the process (they should really be nicer and use actual rocks instead of emotional pain).
Anyhowzers, I think #1: most frat guys are idiots, and #2: you're experiencing a pattern that I and many of my friends have also experienced. I call it the Post-Dating Insanity Phenomenon. After you date someone (or in your case, "hit it and quit it," which I must give you props for using), your 'ex' all of a sudden goes insane and finds the scariest, most deformed, Swamp Thing- looking person to date. Now, I have nothing against unattractive people, but that's not the point.
The point is that first of all, you're too hot for the guys you're dating, and second of all, they had such low self-esteem after you dated them that they had to find someone that would make them look SO hot in comparison to boost themselves up (normal people look like George Clooney next to Swamp Thing). And the reason for their low esteem is YOUR hotness! So don't let it bring you down. Ten bucks you're the hottest girl this guy has ever been around in his life.
In this case, Banker Hater (I'm still enjoying your nickname), it really isn't you. He probably jumped into a relationship to avoid his obsession/feelings for you...hence why his rendezvous didn't work out. My personal suggestion is never to fall for a friend because from what I know, it hardly ever works out. You can safely throw this one in the trash can of life.
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