Lose Yourself in the Music...I mean, Relationships

via email:

"Hi...

My friends told me once that I was 'losing myself' in my relationship. i dunno what that even means, do you?"

Well hello there, seriously Anonymous question asker. While the lack of details makes it difficult to merit a detailed response, your question comes upon an interesting topic. "Losing yourself" in a relationship, I believe, DOES happen to some people. I will delve further, if you would like to come on this magical journey with me...

There are multiple ways in which one can lose themselves when they get a bf/gf. Here are a few:

1) said Anonymous question asker makes their entire life about the relationship, only hanging out with Anonymous's SO (significant other) and forgetting everything they previously cared about. ie. school, work, lets their goldfish die, friends, forgetting about grandma's funeral, etc.

2) Anonymous question asker all of a sudden loves every single hobby SO does and forgets about their own favorite hobbies...as an attempt to spend more time with SO usually. Because when they're apart, it's oh so painful! Friends wonder why Anonymous is all of a sudden golfing every weekend, when Anonymous hates golfing.

3) Anonymous question asker picks up SO's personality traits from spending so much time together. And now Anonymous is suddenly judgemental, no longer funny, or a huge Bible thumper...friends notice that Anonymous is resembling SO to a creepy extent and therefore have the "you're losing yourself" talk.

I'm not sure which one you've turned into, Anonymous question asker, but this kind of thing doesn't just happen in romantic relationships either. If you spend a lot of time with a new friend (or even a cousin of yours you didn't previously hang with), you'll usually start to pick up their traits, sayings, laugh, etc. That's why it's important to make sure the people you chill with are people you want to influence you. Because we are very influence-able human beings... I mean, look at this crazy Twilight phenom. Vampires that sparkle? Anne Rice is effin pissed.

p.s. Here's your bonus for reading...I found this on ONTD (fave) and think it's the funniest thing ever.

Dating a Coworker - On Your Way to Being Fired or Socially Acceptable?

Apologies my dear readers, for the complete and utter abandonment of the Ask M.Rose blog. m.rose has had many other developments in the works and sadly does not seem to be receiving requests for advice...so if you want this blog updated, send in questions to be answered!

There is a particular topic of interest that I was reading about some days ago, one that deserves ponderment:

Dating at work. (dun dun DUNN)

These crazy kids met at work....


Nuff said.







I read an article that said while this was once serrriously taboo, it's becoming more common practice and many employers are loosening their rules on it. Well, I say that's bullhonkeycrap. Dating a coworker still seems to get you a good deal of negative attention these days. I've heard plenty of stories in the past year of people being fired, reprimanded multiple times and looked down upon at the very least for coworker dating. So I ain't so sure that things be changin'.

It's easy to see why so many of us look to coworkers for luuurrrve. You're at the same office every bloody day, and meeting and dating somebody you work with is far less creepy than meeting someone on the internetz (or poking your crush for the zillionth time on Facebook). However, this may still be under "tread lightly" territory. Especially if your boss is ugly, single, desperate, angry or has more than 2 cats.

Waddaya think? Thoughts, comments, issues, concerns, or witty remarks?